Everyone Else Is Too Concerned With Their Own Problems

It might feel unsafe to try to feel good about yourself through your own definition, since you have little experience trusting your instincts and knowing what you want out of life. If necessary, you can appoint a new committee. You can provide yourself all the love and stability you need, on your own terms. What is that thing you want to get up on your soapbox and tell everyone and their mother about? That thing you feel you need to convince everyone you are right about? Okay, that’s your thing. The thing you truly believe in. There are very few things every person on the planet can agree on. The fear of pissing people off on such a grand scale was new for me. It’s taken my inner critic to a whole new level. What I know to be true is when we piss people off, we’ve struck a chord with them. When you stand up for what’s inside of you, you’re living your life’s purpose and honoring your values. Be an example to your kids, to other women around you, to anyone who’s listening. They might not agree, and they might even judge or criticize you for it.

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In fact, I can almost guarantee someone will. There will always be critics. Finding the courage and personal fortitude to stand up for your beliefs takes practice, just like anything else. I remember when I got my first you are the stupidest person ever for thinking this/writing about it comment on my blog. Thought about editing the post. But I stayed strong because I believed what I wrote. And the next time I got a comment like that, I handled it a little bit better. And now when someone disagrees or even criticizes what I believe in, I can shrug it off and even wonder compassionately about that person. It’s just going to take some falling down and getting back up. Which I’m sure you know how to do. What if, at the end of your life, there is a questionnaire. Which box do you want to check? I made everyone happy by not expressing my passionate opinion because I didn’t want to offend anyone.

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I expressed my opinion and it meant something big to me. Go ahead, make everyone happy. Keep your mouth shut. Stay in your pretty box of conformity. I’ll even tie up the pretty ribbon for you. If you believe in it, it’s important to you. It lives in your heart. It’s a fire that cannot be put out. Remember all those women who marched in protest to earn us the right to vote? Forgive me for getting all feminist ranting on you, but think about them for just a moment. Do you think they got criticized? Do you think people disagreed with them? They paved the way for us. Stand up for your beliefs. It’s our birthright to have our own beliefs and no one can take that away from us.

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And in my opinion, it’s our duty as women to express them. For whatever reason. There is beauty and creativity in boldness. There is beauty and creativity in boldness. Your boldness might not look like the next lady’s or mine, and that’s okay. Expressing your opinions and beliefs takes guts. It also takes some confidence. So muster up whatever you have and get out there. And when I see you in the afterlife, I will ask you which box you checked. Think about that for a minute. Would you ever say, I’m sorry for being my true, authentic self. I have two children. When I was pregnant with my second, I knew even from her activity in the womb that she was going to have a distinctly different personality than her brother. From practically the day she was born, she’s been running circles around her brother. You were born the way you are. Yes, there is some aspect of nurture that plays a part in your personality, but for the most part, who you are is who you are. Even Lady Gaga agrees too. It might be unpopular or against social norms, but so what? I talk and laugh loudly, and blurt things out. I tried to be what I thought our society wanted me to be. I was afraid to speak my opinions for fear of people disagreeing with me or being offended. Does all that make different? Maybe not to others, but to me, in my head, I felt like different. It may come to you instantly. It may take some thinking. Start by compiling a list of all the things you think you need to apologize for, or defend, or that make you weird. Then turn them around and ask yourself how these things have been gifts to you and what you’ve learned from them. They love you for who you are as a whole. Since most, if not all of us, are focused on ourselves, we assume that others are watching and taking note of our freak flag, too, but truth be told everyone else is too concerned with their own problems. She was an introvert who preferred staying home on weekends, watching movies with her parents and younger brother. She confided that nearly everyone around her thought she was weird for not wanting a relationship, not wanting to go out and party on the weekends, and the fact that she was unmarried and without children was not commonplace where she lived. Many times she felt the need to defend or be ashamed of who she was. When you apologize for being who you are, you’re rejecting yourself. Rejecting who you naturally are, rejecting your best inner superstar. The more you reject yourself, the farther away you get from your dreams and the farther away you get from the life you were meant to live. The more you reject yourself, the farther away you get from your dreams and the farther away you get from the life you were meant to live.