Why Would They Treat Us Like This?

Although the world out there is harsh and filled with systems that are built on abuse, it was not the world out there that first hurt you deeply. You will have noticed, for example, that your pain began in your family, friendships and other relationships. It was your parents, your family and your caregivers. Many of us still remember the first moment we felt deeply cut by our caregivers. Perhaps it was the first time your mother called you a nasty name. It might have been the first time ever a family member raised their hand to strike you. It might have been the first time ever you were told you were not good enough in one way or another. No matter the reason why they hurt us, what we remember most was the hurt. Why would they treat us like this? Why is society so badly set up that it causes my mother to hit me? Rather, we simply asked ourselves why our mother would hit us so hard. The simple but hard to accept answer is that pain is a part of life. It is as inescapable as death or life. Your parents did not escape it and their parents did not escape it.

Call On Me

Pain has been present throughout the entirety of human history. We may seek to ask why, but what we have never managed to do is eliminate it. If we allow it, this force will overpower us for bad. The simple but hard to accept truth is that life is pain. Instead, we learn to accept and live with these powerful forces. We do not ask why the sun would beat on us so hard. Instead, we accept that the sun is very powerful, and we try to live our lives as best as we can despite its force. We learn to find ways to make it bearable and to prevent it from doing too much damage. We wear sun protection and hats. We learn to tell when it will be very powerful and stay indoors during that time. Instead of being preoccupied with the sun’s powerful force to trigger pain in us, we learn to yield to it and to live with it. Being willing to feel my pain isn’t another strategy I can use to avoid my pain.

Climb That Hill

It is genuinely accepting that sometimes stuff really sucks. Sometimes life can really hurt. Sometimes this world isn’t what I signed up for. And often frightening too. And the only thing harder is not being willing to allow suffering to be there. Sometimes, life sucks. And sometimes, it sucks awfully hard. But there is nothing any of us can do to change it. If we could, we would have changed it a long time ago. If we could, we would have a world full of nothing but happiness and joy. Accepting your pain is accepting that life just sucks sometimes. But if we could all choose to have parents who love us dearly, we all would.

Every Thought Is A Battle

Someone else hurt those who hurt us. Hence, they hurt us in turn. If we do not accept our pain, what happens is that we then continue the cycle. And we become the reason why others ask why. This is why it is extremely important that you get to a place of acceptance. Acceptance gives us power over what we thought we couldn’t control. When you accept pain, you say to the world and to the people who hurt you that you will not be controlled by them. You will not live your life being who they dictate. You will not let pain rule you. As soon as you begin to get to a place where you accept your pain, you will find that you can begin to recover and champion your inner child. You can go back to your past and truly understand why, not from a position of weakness or victimhood, but a position of power and objectivity. You begin to question why, not because you wish you could change the past, but because you want to avoid allowing the past to change your future. In essence, you begin to truly heal. Healing begins to clear the fog of pain so that you can recognize your inner child in the mirror. You can see who you truly are and begin to reacquaint yourself with your inner self. Something else wonderful begins to happen when you stop asking why. You begin to understand that even if others try to hurt you in the future, you do not need to ask why for the rest of your life. You do not need to burden yourself with why and let it cripple you once more. Why did this happen to me? Asking why is a natural human reaction to pain. Pain is just a signal to our brains that something is wrong. It makes us believe that we are worthless. Our emotional pain as children is often caused by other people. The hardest fact of life to accept is that none of us can choose the hands we are dealt in life. Pain is an inescapable part of life. No one can escape it or choose how much or how little emotional pain we get to experience in our lives. Accepting pain empowers you and frees you from being controlled by your emotions. Accepting your pain helps you heal from your pain. It empowers you to recover and champion your inner child. Have you noticed that a lot of people swear they will never become anything like their parent but end up becoming exactly like that parent? Jake is a little boy who watches his father drink to excess every day, so he tells himself that he will never become his father. He wonders why he was not able to escape alcoholism, sinking into it just like his father and like his grandfather. It began hundreds of generations ago and was passed down as an inheritance from generation to generation.