The Attractive Personality Of Inspiration

Your idealism and passion for finding ways to close the gap between your imagination and the real world can be intoxicating for women, especially those used to the mundane pragmatism of everyday life. What gives you the advantage is the fact that your existence is such a contrast to what all other men do. This simple switch in investment dynamics leaves women chasing you. The more they chase, the more they invest, the more attracted they become. You give women the gift of being the chaser, of having a challenge to overcome, of a prize to win. But, just like the other Closed attractive personality types, if not balanced out with some Open Archetypes, you run the serious risk of pushing women away too much, and too often. Without the undulation of closed and open Archetypes, you often go too far, overstepping the mark. You are unique, however, in that you represent a man that literally fills a gap in the psyche of most men. It is precisely because most men are purely Open, that this entirely Closed attractive personality type is usually so sought after by women. You lack openness, but instead of this turning women off, they see you as a project. They think they might be able to change you. To be the catalyst that brings out your tender side.

Too Little, Too Late

No, the only movies that show that story are the ones designed for men. The ones that say hey, nice guys, don’t worry, you’ll get the girl in the end. Fantasy, in other words, like Lord of the Rings or Harry Potter. This is why the Provocateur experiences more success than the other purely Open and Closed attractive personality types. You are the attractive personality of inspiration. This belief that anything is possible despite present circumstances makes you a very enticing man to be around. In conversation, your undulation between the Open, giving, investing, expressing Lover and your closed, detached, reclusive, introspective Magician, gives you an enigmatic quality, like a poet, musician or artist. One minute you are bearing your soul to the woman with an infectious enthusiasm, the next, you are closed off, withdrawing into your mind, escaping into a world she cannot access. It is this closed nature of yours that gives you your particular power over women. If you were always emotional, open, expressive, and giving, it would lose it’s value. It is precisely the Magician’s impenetrable ivory tower that gives you your magnetism. What genius are you hiding? What magic could she discover? Women are left chomping at the bit, having no choice but to fantasize about the dense weight of imagination and mystery that lies behind the curtain.

Contrasting Views

The Lover on his own, unbalanced by the other archetypes, easily gets lost in their pursuit of pleasure, resulting in unrestrained hedonism and addiction. When partnered with the Magician, however, the Lover gains access to a powerful intellect that transforms his immature seeds of pleasure into a fully mature garden of ecstasy. Everyone likes to know that their life is improving. When we look back, we get a deep sense of fulfilment when we see that our present situation is much better than it used to be. These improvements can come in sudden surges like with a pay rise or promotion, or you suddenly meet an amazing woman who likes you in return, or you make an important business connection that opens up a vast frontier of new opportunities for you. Often, though, they tend to occur so slowly that we hardly notice anything. It’s only when we look back that we see how far we have progressed. When we meet people that make us feel like we are growing in their presence, then, we tend to be drawn to them. The most magnetic of the attractive personality types in this regard are the Influencers. What makes this combination so potent is the contrast between the reclusive, detached, Closed Magician, and the empathetic, connected, and Open Peacemaker. Instead of the Magician’s knowledge being private and inaccessible, he shares his knowledge and insights gladly, and easily, with the Peacemaker’s rapport and connection skills. You are the teacher, mentor and guide of the attractive personality types.

Bent, But Not Broken

Instead of her getting lectured by a closed off Magician who has no real idea whether his ideas are making sense, you are always sensitive to the other person’s reality. The Magician is the intellect of the masculine, but because it is a Closed masculine archetype women tend to have no choice but to admire him from afar. One of your most powerful gifts is your calming, safe, almost fatherly energy. It is not surprising that your attractive personality type is most common when older men are interacting with younger women. The older man fantasy is more common than you think, with about 20% of younger women, often secretly, being intensely attracted to older, more experienced men. The mistake older men make, though, is in thinking their ageing is a bad thing, something they need to hide, and dress and act like a young man. What they don’t realise is that by doing this they are just targeting the 80% of women that are into younger men, which just adds an extra unnecessary dimension of challenge. Even though the Influencer is a Power Type due to the undulation between Open and Closed masculine archetypes, there are always potential weaknesses and areas for improvement. Outside of the Influencer’s ideal older man/younger woman dynamic, one of the dangers you face is falling too far into the ‘helper’ category. Even though the attractive personality types arise from your two strongest archetypes, we are much more dynamic and complicated. If you had absolutely no connection to any of your other masculine archetypes, you would most likely always end up firmly in the friend zone. It is the feeling that fuels consumerism, having us chase the next hit of temporary novelty with each purchase. It is the motivation behind music fans, movie buffs and computer gamers.